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Mother's Day sermons...ugh

Caryn Rivadeneira

Caryn Rivadeneira
May 9, 2009

My advice to pastors? Say Happy Mother’s Day. And then preach the sermon that God spilled into your heart and head.

Leafmonster
May 9, 2009

&gt;Say Happy Mother’s Day. And then preach the sermon that God spilled into your &gt;heart and head. Don’t make it about Mother’s Day. <br><br>I am a mother. And to this advice you gave I say, "Amen, amen, amen!" Mother's Day is not a Christian holiday. How does all the crowing about mothers make the non-mothers feel? Give it a nod and move on to the important stuff.<br><br>

Sharonblcl
May 10, 2009

I would like to say that mother's day is what you make of it and personally people all ways depend on a message that comes from the pator in the churches every thing that stand in the pull pit or that comes in the flesh is not of god how do you know if one is telling the truth so what if a pastor speak in the church about god and the do's and don't some of us go there and listen some don't but my god when the service is over do we learn any thing after the message that went forth can we tell someone what we had learn some can and some can't. Listen first of all we have to seek it,learn it, eat it as if it is food so that it may nourish our body and be morrow to our souls. That is the only way that we can determine that we are getting the right information from the pastor in the church. So let mother's day be mother's day and let all mom's/dads enjoy their day. I think we all should know about our lord and savior jesus christ before a mother's day was even put on a calender. Give the parents a break it's just like a day of rest for the women and god did say rest.I know now that the world knows about god some choose to serve him some don't and some of us won't and you know what going to happen to those that won't. No disrespect to any one but that is the realitly of it. Happy Mother day to all be bless and have a bless life and trust god in all things.

Nelima
May 10, 2009

Now that I think of it, today's sermon wasn't on Mother's Day... Our pastor always does one, but he's away and the guest pastor apparently didn't get the memo ;)

Judy
May 10, 2009

This article is so refreshing. To be honest, I had been avoiding this site because I was afraid it would tell me how to "think Christian", which normally turns out very ABC/black and white thoughts. <br><br>In response to the article, I am more than just a mom. I am a woman, a human, a person and my brain does not shut off once I become a mother. I need to hear what will reach into my heart. Not, just what will make me feel good about being a mom. And, I loved this quote: " Essentially a bunch of Jesus junk that no mom actually needs. Nothing to encourage moms to go deep into their gifts, to focus on their Maker to see how we’re made and who they’re made to be." That stuff only clutters up our houses and our brains and does nothing to bring us closer to the God that we need so desperately.<br><br>All in all, thank you, thank you, thank you for not being cliche, ABC, or black/white answerish " Essentially a bunch of Jesus junk that no mom actually needs. Nothing to encourage moms to go deep into their gifts, to focus on their Maker to see how we’re made and who they’re made to be." All that stuff just clutters our houses and hearts and does nothing to bring us closer to the God that we desperately need.<br><br>All in all, thank you, thank you, thank you for not being cliche, ABC, or black/white answer-ish.

Travis
May 11, 2009

I appreciate the article. I was just talking this over with my pastor this past weekend as we were sermon planning. While trying to plan out series I noticed it was getting harder and harder to plan because of all the holidays, churches want to celebrate. You have Mothers Day, then Memorial Day, then Fathers Day, then 4th of July. It's impossible to plan around all those. So we've decided to cut back on the holiday messages.

Staci Litts
May 12, 2009

I wholeheartedly agree. There is no Mother's day card or gift that will ever convey how much what they do is appreciated. Mother's day and the greeting cards that come with it is very generic. Moms should be appreciated throughout the year not just one day because a calendar says so. Without mothers none of us would be here today or be who we are today.

GCinAR
May 12, 2009

As a pastor, I can tell you that saying "Happy Mother's Day" and preaching what the Lord spills into your heart and head is not always a popular thing. I actually had a man in the church come to me the next day. He was offended that I would preach a straightforward sermon when so many visitors might be in the church. He actually told me, "There are plenty of sermons about family and mothers that would have been much better. " <br>I tried to give him a view from my seat, but it really didn't matter. He preferred fluff and flowers.<br><br>Oh, well. So much for being the popular guy.

Sunshine
May 13, 2009

The mothers at home are in need of day off especially from doing works in the kitchen so why not give them holiday during that mother's day bcoz if men enjoys their everyday life from being free to do the works in the kitchen from the start when they got married, then they have 2 kids, the work of the mothers at home it will not be easy to her if only men or the husband has the off days and the wife has no off days working at home 24 hrs a day.

TimF
May 10, 2013

So well said, Caryn. If I had my way, we'd skip Mother's Day and Father's Day mentions entirely at church; but if we must, the idea of saying Happy Mother's Day and then preaching the sermon the Lord gave you is the way to go.

Oh, and on the bit about an extra wife, that's what one of my colleagues said. I was telling her about something exremely helpful my wife had - once again - done to get our lives organized, and she said, "I need to be married to a Liz too." She didn't mean instead of her husband. She meant in addition to.

Sorry folks, but the woman I married is one of a kind. I do like the fact that she's the mother of our children. I guess I will find a way to celebrate Mother's Day after all. But I hope it won't include anything much at church.

Cheers,
Tim

Denise Campbell
May 11, 2013

I have no children and I have no mother. I have gotten used to the Mother's Day sermons over the years, because I understand that my situation is unique, but for a few years after my mom passed away, Mother's Day sermons were hard. And I have a friend who lost both her children, and Mother's Day is especially hard for her two. Especially since her daughter was buried on Mother's Day. It would be nice if they'd skip the Mother's Day sermons altogether, as far as I'm concerned. It can be very painful for some.

Bill Wald
May 4, 2016

At Everett (WA) First CRC the council cooks breakfast for the mothers et alia and then we have "real" church. The menu has not changed in the 20 years I have been a member and the food is very good.

JCarpenter
May 10, 2017

This dilemma shows the beauty of using the lectionary / church season for planning worship services, music, liturgy, and sermons. It's about those things---the Word, worship, prayer, etc.--- and not about a cultural holiday. I recall visiting a church over 4th of July weekend, the service filled with all sorts of patriotic bombast, and then a "oh yeah, quick a minute, let's take communion" coda for a conclusion.

Kat
May 10, 2017

Well first off Im not a biological mother but have been a "spriritual" one a few times.

I personally don't take offense that mothers and fathers are honored in some way. They do alot in raising kids, not an easy task and could use alittle encoragement,acknowledgement.

Our church preaches regularly through the bible, no real topical sermons. ( I say preach whatever will "build up and edify" the moms AND the congregation.) The choir will sing a special song. Thats about it. The families do their own thing to celebrate. I dont know what your churches do but I'd also serve communion if it is not done on a regular basis, on Mothers day and Fathers day, as it is a special grace given to build up the church. They could use all the help they need in fulfilling their calling as parents.

Kathleen PB
May 10, 2017

I have had my share of "ugh!" responses to Mother's Day sermonizing, particularly when the focus was on reifying and heaping phony frosting on a caricature of what women are supposed to be. Women gag as they are bound and gagged and kept from being/saying/doing what is authentic for them as Christ-honoring persons. (I would love to have you as pastor of counseling, said the pastor in our church, but you could never (list of things women are restricted from doing. Bleah! Faugh! Argh!)
But to ignore Mother's Day and Father's Day in this culture is a huge mistake. What we need to see again, and again, and again are the ways God Himself "Mothers" and "Fathers" His children. Give me a picture of the ways I can and do reflect the nurturing, grieving to the point of weeping, tenderly leading, knowing and loving the very hairs on the heads of my beloved ones that God has shown and you honor my femininity. Give me a picture of the tough-love warrior, the no nonsense one who is not going to let hell into His Heaven, the one we see as masculine, and you honor masculinity. Let those pictures inform my determination to seek out and be more like Him. Then you will have honored the full-orbed pictures of who we are--each of us as individuals, with a mix of both estrogen (more or less) and testosterone (more or less) shaping us.
Honor (not obliterate or ignore) the images of God--masculine and feminine, and you honor us

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