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Steubenville and sexual shalom

Erica Schemper

Esther Aspling
March 27, 2013

I was sexually assaulted as a teen, and I've been recently retelling my story.
I also have a 14yr old daughter, and I can't help but look at her differently now.
I don't think there is an easy answer, or formula for teaching our kids these things. It's only going to be by example that they learn how to be confident secure women, or respectful men.
Thank you for giving more light to this issue!

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Christian Life08
March 27, 2013

An awesome post and topic. As I too have children of similar ages, 7 year old girl and a 3 year old son.

I heard an interesting metaphor in describing to a daughter the importance of keeping her body pure and holy. Granted, nothing will compare to Gods Sovereign design and intention in keeping oneself pure, both man and woman. But here was the metaphor. "Ask your daughter. If she got a brand new, beautiful, clean and shiny car. One she greatly took pleasure in and the time to take great care of to make sure her 'baby' was always looking good and clean and in good condition. Would she then one day want to let some person, even a friend, who hasn't shown any care or attention, borrow her prized possession? Of course not."

I greatly enjoy this metaphor because it doesn't seek to instill fear nor shame. But instead it seeks to relate to our child how our Holy, yet all Loving Father views His children. And what He desires for our lives. We are PRIZED possessions in His eyes. How can we be so sure? Look to the cross.

Andrew Gilmore
March 27, 2013

Meg Meeker wrote something that in "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" that has stuck with me:

As a father, be the man you want your daughter to marry.

While it's not a cure-all (we still live in a fallen world), it's a great start. And a great challenge.

I am sure the same applies for mothers too. We must model healthy attitudes towards sexuality and gender issues.

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