October 7, 2009
Impossible to know what I would do if faced with that situation, but the smartest thing to do (to my mind) would be to let the wrong-doer make his media stand by himself. That doesn't preclude forgiveness, trying to repair the marriage or anything like that, but it does prevent the wrong-doer from further using the spouse for his own ends.
I don't see why the wife should "stand by her man" unless she really means it and has made peace with his actions. When it happens so soon after the story breaks, I really doubt that this is the case.
As I've never been through that, I can't say what I'd do. Each person reacts in a different way. Police for years have 'determined guilt' by how a person reacts and have ended up focusing on the wrong person too many times. As Christians, we need to open our minds and support those who choose to make that stand and not belittle them, or support them for not showing up and get on our knees and pray for everyone involved. Perhaps it's all they can do to be there either in the background or beside their husbands/wives.<br><br>Sad though, that we need to make that judgment call on what the victim in this situation is/is not doing. Why do we always criticize the weak instead of laying blame on where it lies? Maybe I'm an idealist, but that whole concept that Paul talked about in supporting the weaker Christians, seems to fit here. I know I'd be weak in a time like that and would instead, appreciate support instead of questions/judgements as to how I react/don't react. Shouldn't we stop laying blame and support those who are hurting? <br><br>
Hey, wld a "good husband" stand by his adulterous wife if she was in public office??<br><br>This is a good question to ponder.
I've never been married, so I've never been in this situation, but I have watched the mother of a dear friend go through it and also my uncle. In both cases the spouse who cheated did so repeatedly and with no regret whatsoever. It seems to me that if a spouse cheats repeatedly with no regret, no recognition of sin, or the hurt /humiliation done to the family and surviving spouse, what spiritual or practical good is done by standing by your man (or woman)? Does that not enable sin? Doesn't it completely ignore the "go and sin no more" part of Jesus's forgiveness of the adulterous woman? How does it glorify God?
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